Prison is inhospitable to the cultivation of relationships. Communication with the outside world costs money. Visits from loved ones, if they happen at all, can require lengthy road trips and compliance with onerous prison rules. And mail can be held up, sometimes inexplicably, for long periods of time.
But that doesn’t stop incarcerated people from doing what they can to invest in friendships inside. In many stories published by Prison Journalism Project, contributors have written about the people in their lives whose support, intelligence and generosity have helped stave off the pain of the profoundly isolating conditions that define so much of prison life.
In the stories collected here, incarcerated writers explore relationships that are possible behind prison walls despite their confinement. They underscore the singular power of friendship to help us feel more alive, and more human.
In “Human Dignity, Compassion Supercede Race in Tough Times,” Walter Hart, a Black barber, writes about his experience caring for an older White man after the man was assaulted. Hart’s act of kindness inspired others, who in turn gifted the injured man with items that made him feel welcomed and safe despite the unspoken racial codes of prison.
Christopher Blackwell expands on the idea of breaking conventions in his piece about participating in a restorative justice circle in his Washington state prison. While he initially felt awkward about the intimate nature of the program, he and his peers learned together that “healed people heal people.”
“Family Created Behind the Walls” by Virginia poet Quincy Jones is a powerful testimony about the transformative potential of friendships formed in prison. He writes: “I feel more accepted from behind the walls than I felt/ When I was free.”
Dortell Williams’ “My Friend Tin, A Brother in Self-Reformation Behind Prison Walls” honors a friend who served as a fellow traveler in the pursuit of education and self-betterment.
“Transformation Through an Unlikely Friendship” by C.R. Addleman discusses the author’s personal experience building a friendship with his mentee and the heartfelt moment they shared while discussing prison life.
Jessie Milo writes about the reality of friendships in prison in “Misguided Loyalties and True Friendships.” Guided by the concept of forced loyalty, Milo touches on the need to cut old toxic friends and habits to make room for more positive, healthy relationships.
In Leo Cardez’s story, “All My Friends Are in Prison,” he writes of the differences between his social life inside and outside of prison. He finds more community in prison than he did as a free man, a fact he attributes to unresolved “inner trauma and deep feelings of inferiority.”
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